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5 tips on how to incline people to your opinion

Each of the following tips you have already seen on TV, seen on the Internet and books, heard from parents or mentors. Nevertheless, most of us do not cease to violate them, despite the obvious negative consequences

I am fully confident that you have already observed each of the following tips on TV, seen on the Internet and books, heard from parents or mentors. Nevertheless, most of us do not cease to violate them, despite the obvious negative consequences. 

So let me introduce to you not new, but well-forgotten old recommendations on how to persuade people to their point of view.

Do not point directly at the wrong person

Even if you are 100% sure of your objectivity, it is better to refrain from direct confrontation with the interlocutor. Why? Firstly, it is unlikely that you at least once in your life were 100% objective. Secondly, directly pointing to someone's mistakes means to touch his self-esteem. And if you have already done this, then rest assured that it will be very difficult to achieve the location of the other person. And even more difficult is to persuade him to his point of view. 

Agree, it would be much better to find points of agreement than to vainly prove something to each other. To avoid such troubles in the future, accept the following: 

It is wrong to say: "I will refute your facts." "You're absolutely wrong." "I will prove this to you and this ...". 

It's right to say:"I may be wrong, but it seems to me that ...". "Maybe you're right, but let's look at the situation from a different angle ...". "Under certain circumstances, you would be right, but specifically in this case ...".

Admit if you are wrong

And do it as quickly as possible. After trying to justify yourself with stupid excuses, you just postpone the moment of recognition. And the longer you wait, the more you'll have to apologize at the end. 

It's wrong to say: "I was right, it's you who misunderstood me ...". "You'll think, if you made a mistake. And how many times have you been wrong ... " 

It's right to say: " Yes, I admit, I was wrong. " "I agree that as regards this aspect, I am absolutely wrong. But in another ... ». 

This behavior disarms the opponent, and at the same time raises you above him, because not everyone can recognize their own mistakes.

Consider the situation on the part of the interlocutor

The reason for absolutely all conflicts is the unwillingness of one participant to meet one another. Therefore, first of all you need to try to understand your opponent. Yes, there are times when a person is aggressive and, due to a lack of intelligence, does not want to reach a point of agreement. Well, in this case it is better to show sympathy, because, if circumstances were different, you could be born just as straightforward and close as your companion. 

It's wrong to say: "I'm definitely right, because you're stupid." "I'm smarter than you, so listen here ...". 

It's right to say: "If I were you, I would feel exactly the same discontent. But understand me ... ".

Take on weakly

"Do not you respect me?" Is a cult phrase that we usually hear after the fifth open bottle. Without even realizing it, the participants of booze use one of the most effective methods of influencing people. Unfortunately, this phrase is not effective in all cases. But as practice shows, with experience and a little charisma, "taking it lightly" is almost always obtained. Take note: 

It is wrong to say: "You are absolutely wrong and that's why ...". "Do not be a fool, listen here ...". 

It's right to say: "I know you as a man of the word. I hope this time you will not fail ... "," Knowing perfectly how clever you are, I want to explain to you the following ... "

Give your actions a little pathos

By submitting information effectively and pathetically, you, at least make an impression on the interlocutor, as a maximum - achieve the result. All kinds of performances and shocking are now at the peak of their popularity, so why not apply them in everyday conversation? 

The main thing is to do it skillfully and not overdo it. After all, if in ordinary life you will imitate the characters of Jason Statham, believe me, this will look more miserable than spectacular.  

Results:

1. Do not try to refute and criticize all the arguments of your interlocutor. On the contrary, try to find something in common between the two views. 

2. If you make a mistake, accept it as soon as possible.

3. Do not look at the conflict only from the point of view of your own gain. Try to understand the cause of the indignation of his comrade. 

4. Act on the higher motives of people. 

5. In order to give your words of efficiency and visibility, be a bit dramatic.


Bogdan Sukhodolsky

 

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